On occasion, someone will either ask in counseling or approach me in some other setting to ask about my personal theory of counseling. They won't ask in those exact words, but at bottom, this is the question their asking.
Sometimes, people ask this question or others like it simply because they have a curiosity, other times it's because they can't believe that the Bible actually provides for the church a model for counseling. They can't believe that, as Dr. David Powlison has said, "Christianity is a psychology."
In an effort to further communicate to those who have such an interest, I'm placing within this blog post a link to an academic paper I wrote for one of my master's level courses just prior to graduating from SEBTS this past May. Far shorter than a book (or even a booklet), but longer than a blog post, I'm publishing it here in order to answer the questions of some and (hopefully) provoke dialogue in others.
Truly, it may not be of much interest to those who are seeking counseling for themselves, but for those who are searching for a trusted, biblical counseling resource for people within their care (i.e. pastors), it may be of some value.
As with any document of this nature, I would call it a "living document," because in the spirit of the Reformation, none of us have arrived. Not theologically. Not philosophically. Not even scientifically.
We are "always reforming" (semper reformada), but so far as the essentials of the faith are concerned, those things that make biblical counseling biblical, I dare say you shouldn't expect much change any time soon.
Just this morning, I learned that the ACBC is planning to adopt its revised Standards of Doctrine later this year, at its annual conference. I've read this revised statement, and believe my theory for counseling (what we employ here at Baylight Counseling) stands in agreement with both ACBC's Standards, and the BCC's Confession of Faith (counselors at Baylight either are or will be ACBC certified; Baylight is a partner of the BCC).
It is to God's glory, and our joy that we have His unchanging, inerrant, authoritative, and sufficient word for the purpose of bearing one another's burdens in the pursuit of discipleship and counseling.
Speaking the Truth in Love: A Personal Theory for Counseling Biblically
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Perplexed, Not Driven to Despair
I'm happy to share the following video from The Gospel Coalition here today. In it, you'll hear from three of my favorite pastors: John Piper, David Platt, and Matt Chandler. For just a few minutes, they talk about their biblical-theological understandings of human suffering, as well as practical application of Gospel-cenetered hope through some of their own trials.
Piper lost his mother years ago to a tragic car accident. The Platt family was afflicted by infertility. And, Chandler was struck by a cancer of the brain. Collectively, these men, and their wives, know something about human suffering. They're not just ivory tower theologians who know a few good verses from the Bible.
This issue is critical to an effective biblical counseling process. When people come to me for help in their own suffering, they naturally want me to say something profound. They want me to say something they've not heard before that will make it all go away.
As a biblical counselor, I have the privilege of helping people to understand that neither I, nor any other human being have all of the immediate answers. At the same time, I have the privilege of helping them prepare to suffer well, to not waste their affliction, and to find the hope they seek not in a program or a set of religious platitudes, but in a Person.
As this video draws out, we can have true hope in Christ in the midst of our suffering, because He is indeed sovereign, that is, God is utterly over all things, to include those things that are plainly tragic. If He were not, then He would be less than God, and my suffering could have no eternal meaning, purpose, or value.
But, such is not the case. He is sovereign, and He assigns meaning to my suffering that redeems it from the clutches of despair. For those of us who love God and are called according to His purposes, we can embrace our trials perplexed, and yet with a hope that will endure until He comes again (Romans 8:28).
In the Christian life, there is no cause for despair, because despair is guilty of blasphemy against our living God.
These are some of my own deeply held, personal convictions as a cancer survivor. But, they're not rooted in my experience alone. They're rooted first and foremost in the trustworthy word of God.
Do you have a story of God faithfully carrying you through suffering? Share it with us below. Your story may be just what another person needs to hear today!
"We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair." 2 Cor. 4:8
Your Past Experience Doesn't Excuse Your Current Sin
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The plethora of human psychological theories that have emerged and continue to emerge since the days of Freud, Rogers, and Jung, all attempt to answer the origins of human behavior. One of the many troubles, and what we're not told by the secular academy, is that these many theories are often in direct conflict with one another. For example, one theory will explain human behavior as largely emanating from the brain's biology. Another will see human behavior as the by-product of past experience.
It's that second thought that I want to address in this post.
This issue is important for us to consider, because it's a common assumption in our culture, that Experience A necessarily causes Behavior B. One of the venues in which we see this theory played out most often is in the criminal justice system. In my seventeen years of law enforcement, the last two being in the courtroom, I watched this behavioral system applied over and over again.
One time, I sat through an appeal to overturn a death sentence, in favor of a life term. The defendant had brutally murdered a man with a knife as the two walked out of a night club. The argument, which was quite compelling, I must admit, went like this: because the defendant had been exposed to extreme physical abuse as a child, and because those experiences drove him into substance abuse, he necessarily grew up into an adult who could not, therefore, control his anger and rage.
His past experiences were to blame for his murderous ways. Therefore, his death sentence must, it was argued, be overturned.
Although many practitioners of this psychological theory would deny it (and based on what, I do not know), the logical end of this thought process is that the defendant had not actually committed any sin for which he could justly be held accountable. He had committed a heinous act that ended tragically in the death of another man, but he had merely responded to the sin that had been committed against him, years prior.
His death sentence, based upon these facts alone, was therefore unjust!
From a biblical perspective, this theory fails miserably, because it excises individual human responsibility for sin, and therefore, removes our need for a Savior. The theory itself is anti-Christ and anti-Gospel. This shouldn't come as a surprise to us, though, because the roots of this man-made psychological system were set in place by people who denied the Gospel, and were largely Darwinian evolutionists.
The Bible says that all have sinned, and fallen short of the glory of God. The Bible does not deny, however, the influencing affect of past experience. This is why, for example, God commands parents to raise up children in the way that they should go. Clearly, the experiences of our children in our homes will bring shape to the adult person they become.
Past experience is indeed formative, but it's not determinative.
The child molester does not molest because they themselves were molested. They molest because they respond sinfully to the sins that were committed against them. While their past experience is tragic, and large amounts of help and grace are needed, God does not and will not give them a hall pass on their behavior. This is true for you, and it is true for me.
How can we know that the child molester does not molest because he or she was molested? Because not all children who are molested grow up into child molesters. This is an inconvenient truth for those who wish to hang sinful behavior on past experience, alone. In fact, their own numbers don't even come close to supporting the theory, and the explanations offered are woefully insufficient.
Still, why should we be having this discussion?
Running in the background, behind the scenes, is our understanding of the Gospel, who we are, and who God is as our greatest hope. In the context of biblical counseling, it's common to hear a husband blame his wife for his hard heart. "I hit her because she..." is how the explanation begins. Or, "I had the affair because when I was a child..." the theory goes.
King David would have, and did indeed reject this flawed understanding of his own adulterous and murderous ways. According to David, his sin was his own, and God himself was the ultimate target.
Unlike modern psychological systems, the Gospel provides both the bad news of human behavior, and the great message of hope. It's true that we've all sinned and fallen short of God's glory, but it's also true that the free gift of God is forgiveness of sin and eternal life in Christ Jesus, by grace, through faith.
And, rather than leaving negative past experiences in the hands of chance, unreconciled and without purpose or meaning, the Gospel fills in the gaps of our limited understanding, and helps us to see that those things which were meant for our harm, can and will be used for our good, to the glory of God, and for our ultimate joy.
Scripture references: Romans 3:23; Proverbs 22:6; Romans 1:18; Psalm 51; Genesis 50:20; Romans 8:28; Romans 6:23.
Rising Awareness of Mental Health Issues Among Evangelicals
On April 5, 2013, the evangelical church in America, known for its generally strong belief in and commitment to Biblical inerrancy and sufficiency, was rocked from its slumber on mental health issues when the son of beloved pastor Rick Warren tragically committed suicide.
LifeWay, a research and publishing arm of the Southern Baptist Convention, recently issued a report in which it said that 48% of evangelicals in America believe that "Bible study and prayer alone can heal people with serious mental illnesses, such as depression, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia." In the same report, respondents also indicated a majority belief that the church in America should, "do more to prevent suicide."
Matthew Warren, 27, had struggled for years with issues such as a borderline personality disorder and depression. According to his parents, Rick and Kaye, they had engaged these battles for years with Matthew, loving on him, and ensuring that he had access to quality mental health care and counseling.
Still, the day they had long feared would come, finally arrived. Their son had taken his own life.
In the aftermath, they were left not only with the task of prayerfully mending their broken family, but, they were compelled to see to it that Matthew's death would become a point of constructive dialogue for Christians in America.
The evangelical church in America, with exceptions of course, has proven its commitment to "rightly dividing the word of God," but it has had difficulty rightly dividing the issues that surround mental health and mental illness.

While I applaud LifeWay for taking up this issue, and for investigating the general mood of evangelicals in America, I have some thoughts concerning the report that I'd like to add:
- The report, in my estimation, reflects a continued lack of understanding of the issues surrounding mental health and mental illness. For example, according to the report, well over half of evangelicals believe that bible study and prayer alone can bring healing to those who suffer from mental health issues, while a majority also believe that the church should do more to prevent suicides that are presumably linked to mental illness. Is this to say that a majority of evangelicals in America believe that those afflicted with mental illness must simply pray harder, and study longer?
- The most loaded question in the report, in my opinion, is the one that addresses Bible study and prayer as the hope for those struggling with mental health issues. I didn't like the wording or the presentation of the question, because it takes an incredibly complex issue and reduces it to a dangerously simple question. Evangelicals, rightly committed to the word of God, but not always well versed in mental health issues, are almost certainly going to affirm that Bible study and prayer alone can heal mental illness. This is not a surprising outcome, and furthermore, not an incorrect belief, in and of itself. What the question seems to convey, but does not clarify, is whether the respondents believed that only prayer and bible study should be applied where mental illness is present. In other words, one can believe that prayer and Bible study alone can heal mental illness, while not believing that these are the only two options which ought to be applied.
- The LifeWay report repeatedly uses the term "mental illness," and, for the purposes of the survey, groups depression, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia into one category that it describes as "serious conditions." This, in my opinion, is an over-simplification of the named conditions, particularly where depression is the issue. For example, a person may suffer from what appears to be depression with underlying biological causes, or they may suffer from a depression which was brought about by circumstantial factors, where there is no reason to suspect a biological cause. Furthermore, the depression may or may not be "serious" in terms of the level of suffering. Therefore, to group depression into the same category as bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, two conditions which are indeed serious, and which are believed to be organically driven issues, is too loose of an approach, and feeds into the ongoing unfamiliarity with the issues.
- Evangelicals in America have been sold, in my opinion, on two grievous errors which originate in two distinct camps: a) the anti-organic Christian camp, which denies the organic component of mental health issues, because it fails to grasp the relationship between body and soul, and b) the secular approach to mental health which finds its roots in a Darwinian theory of evolution, and a "disease-only" model of psychology which seeks, therefore, to excise the reality of sin, its effects, and the corresponding need for a Savior.
The points above are not exhaustive, but serve as brief examples of the issues that the church faces in America. The LifeWay report and its respondents are right to identify the need for a broader, more comprehensive response to mental health and mental illness issues. Regardless of the identifiable causes of problematic emotions and behaviors in people, it is undeniable that the church ought to be a place of refuge and unsurpassed hope for both the sinner and the sufferer, as it learns to better embrace the realities of the brokenness of our bodies, and the hope that the Gospel of Jesus Christ offers to those in despair.
I am convinced that counseling rightly belongs to and in the church, but my conviction goes well beyond the woefully insufficient "take two verses and call me in the morning" approach.
For biblical encouragement in all of this, I look to passages such as 1 Timothy 5:23, where Paul instructs Timothy, concerning some physical ailments, to not drink only water, but to also drink "a little wine" in seeking relief. In raising this point, I'm not inviting a debate on alcohol. I am, however, acknowledging that Paul did not tell Timothy to simply attend another Bible study, and pray harder in seeking a cure for what ailed him. Instead, Paul acknowledged a physical ailment, and identified a potential source of physical relief. Why would the church today refuse to extend a similar form of relief to sufferers of true mental illness, where appropriate?
The good news for us today is that there is a movement within the evangelical church, otherwise known as the "biblical counseling movement," which is, with increasing precision, seeking to better understand the connection between body and soul, true mental illness versus problematic emotions and behaviors brought about by sin, and the appropriate forms of relief and treatment. At its best, it's neither given to naivety, nor given to a Freudian worldview.
Within this counseling model, is a growing source of hope for those locked into seemingly inescapable patterns of sin, or seasons of intense suffering brought about by a host of causes for which they had little to no control. Regardless of the position, the Gospel is held out as the ultimate source of compassionate hope and healing, whether there is a need for medical intervention, or not.
For these and other reasons, I'm grateful for the courage of the Warren family in confronting the church with the realities we face. I'm grateful for organizations such as LifeWay, which are refusing to ignore this once frowned upon topic. And, I'm grateful for the grace of God in the biblical counseling movement, which is increasingly lifting from the pages of Scripture a truly biblical approach to counseling, psychotherapy, and mental health issues.
For too long, the church has submitted herself to the secular sciences in near humiliation, behaving as a bride who is ashamed of her husband, when all along, He held the keys to hope for not only the age to come, but also the age in which we presently live.
While we have not yet arrived, there are indications of a movement in the right direction. And, that movement may begin with a rising awareness not only of the need, but of the hope found in the Good News, properly joined together with a more accurate understanding of the body and soul.
For the sake of our testimony, the glory of God, and the souls of the people for which we are called to provide care, let's pray that we can finally start to get this right.
Can You Trust God?
Can you trust God?
Can you trust God?
Author Jerry Bridges presented this laser-guided question in his book “Trusting God,” which focuses on faith in our Creator in the midst of crisis, and trauma. Sadly, the Christmas season is too often marked by despair-inducing incidents that put to the test the faith we say is within us.
During my seventeen-year career in law enforcement, the SWAT team I was a part of always kept its gear prepared for an immediate response to a high-risk scenario. The general rule of thumb was that the holiday season had a knack for creating in what we called Emotionally Disturbed Persons thoughts and feelings that could lead to potentially deadly situations.
While those dramatic occurrences were actually far and few between, the truth is that no matter the time of year, life in a fallen world leaves us all subject to various trials and tribulations that can produce a very real crisis of faith. Familial and marital difficulties, health issues, death, job loss, and related issues can leave us gasping for our spiritual breath.
There’s never a good time for crisis and trauma, but when it happens in the middle of the Christmas season, it simply feels like the height of injustice.
But, suffering is no respecter of persons or the calendar. It strikes the rich and the poor, the Christian and the non-Christian, in the summertime and when the snow falls. Suffering is entirely unconcerned with our preferences.
Suffering is also more than willing to ride into our lives on the back of seemingly uncontrollable circumstances, or the sins committed against us by others. It’s fond of the sins of those we’re supposed to trust the most, but it can be equally devastating when introduced by a complete stranger.
Suffering, in its entire myriad of forms, leaves us asking the question---can I trust God?
As ambassadors for Christ, it’s vitally important that we prepare to witness to others the treasure of the Gospel in our own suffering, and to minister to the world the hope of the Gospel in its suffering.
This is what theologians refer to as a “theology of suffering.” A strong theology of suffering leaves no room for religious platitudes when hurting strikes, but is grounded firmly in the cross of Christ, and in the mission of God.
A strong theology of suffering is not afraid to say, in any circumstance---God is indeed in control in the darkness.
A strong theology of suffering, in between the fears and tears of the very real pains of life, answers in the affirmative that we can indeed trust God, because our trust in God is not dependent upon the circumstances we face or the condition of our lives.
The Christian’s trust in God is grounded entirely in the unchanging character of God, and in His promises.
Questions for reflection:
- Have you spent time praying about and searching the Scriptures in preparation for suffering?
- How are you prepared to minister to others in their times of suffering with words that extend beyond religious platitudes, and into the pure Gospel, itself?
Resources from the Biblical Counseling Coalition on grief and suffering.
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